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Loving What Is

by Byron Katie

We spend so much time stressing over all our shoulds and oughts (I should be happier. They should recognize my talents. I ought to be more successful.). In her book, Loving What Is, Byron Katie makes the point that the stress, the dissatisfaction, the suffering that comes from all of our shoulds and oughts is because we’re arguing with reality. “When you argue with reality, you lose.” Katie says. “It’s not the problem that causes suffering, it’s our thinking about the problem.” Katie offers an approach (she calls it “The Work”) that helps us think about our problems in a new way. When we do this, we can let go of the suffering, find peace and move on.

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Strengths Finder 2.0

by Tom Rath

I’m a firm believer that, to be successful, we have to work from our strengths. (This doesn’t mean we ignore our weaknesses but, so often, we become so focused and fixated on those weaknesses that we deny we have any strengths at all!) Rath’s book includes access to the newest version of the StrengthsFinder assessment. You get an access code so that you can take the assessment on line. He then offers strategies for applying your strengths. Recognizing and using your strengths is the best way to overcoming your shortcomings and challenges!

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Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

by Marilee Adams

Coaching is all about asking questions so I was immediately drawn by the title of this book. Once I started reading, I found it to be easy to read, easy to understand, and easy to apply. Adams talks about ‘Learner’ questions and ‘Judger’ questions. Judger questions lead us to blame, frustration and win-lose thinking. Learner questions lead us to solutions, thoughtful choices and win-win thinking. It’s easy to get caught up in Judger mode but it is possible to make the switch. Adams shows us how and the questions to ask along the way.